Me (48M) and my wife (47F) are going to our first swingers club this weekend. We’ve never done anything in the lifestyle yet - we thought this would be a great first step.

We’ve talked at length about needs, desires, boundaries - we’re both onboard and supportive of one another. So obviously, we’re looking forward to this first experience.

Where I need advice - in your experience, what has been the most helpful in acclimating to this new lifestyle? Would you recommend:

A) Going to the club just to watch, maybe be watched, but generally just take it all in, or

B) Go to the club and jump right into the deep end. Maybe join another couple, swap a little, and see what we like/don’t like. Sort of a trial by fire.

Thoughts? Advice? Suggestions welcome.