Since this is our first post, let me provide a little bit of backstory here. We are not necessarily new to this. However, we don't have a lot of experience in this realm together. My wife and I both are very sexual people with a mild history of group sex scenarios prior to when we started dating.

On my wife's side of things, "I've had several experiences such as MMF and MFF threesomes. Most while in a relationship and an MFF while single. I enjoyed the experiences overall, but the relationships were not always solid. Now, being in a solid relationship, I would like to try again."

On my side of things, "I had experienced MFM and FMF while single and some parallel play while in a relationship. I don't think I've ever truly felt physically monogamous which probably played a role in only having 4 serious relationships in my entire life despite being in my 30s. Emotionally, I felt monogamous. But up until I married this amazing woman, it always felt like a trade-off that eventually lost its appeal."

Over the years, we have bonded and established a truly remarkable relationship filled with unconditional love, open communication, amazing sex, and brutal honesty. What we have has taken us to a level that is extremely rare to find, and neither of us would trade it for the world. For the first time in my life, my desires have become absolutely meaningless in comparison. We just make each feel safe, secure, and comfortable.

Despite all of this, we have talked in great detail about exploring the lifestyle and new experiences. Sex is far from the foundation of our relationship. It’s just another activity that we both highly enjoy. We both find other people attractive and have these desires. We've just both had our blinders put up for so long trying to conform to the social constructs of Vanilla life ingrained in us by society.

Thus far, we have only had 1 experience together, which was basically a mild soft swap gone wrong. The situation happened organically while drinking and playing games with some friends. The wife was very comfortable playing with me as well as me playing with her. The husband seemed to be very comfortable doing the same with my wife. However, this is where the problems began. His wife got hit with a big ol' wave of intense jealousy. That, in combination with their excessive drinking, led to a giant fight between the two of them. After some explosions (not in the fun way) and apologies to us, the night ended with some awkward parallel play.

Our biggest takeaways from that experience were; 1) Never again with them, lol. 2) We should probably establish rules and boundaries for ourselves and others. 3) We managed to keep our composure and handle a very difficult new first experience involving sharing one another while being intoxicated and acted on our emotions towards the entire situation with a high level of maturity.

Overall, I think it proved that once we get over the newness, nervousness, and anxiety that this lifestyle may be a very good fit for us to enhance our already amazing relationship and sex life.

I would just really, really, really like to have our next experience to be with people who are a little more experienced to attempt to prevent drama on the other side of the fence. I don't want other people's drama to be the reason we walk away from what could be an amazing element to our relationship. Since our last experience, we have taken more time to discuss our boundaries, desires, and concerns and tried to educate ourselves more on what the lifestyle as a whole is really about.

We believe that we are ready for the next steps in this journey, but we don't really know the best way to move forward. As I said, we would prefer a more experienced couple that we could establish a decent connection with to explore the lifestyle a little further in a much more healthy atmosphere.

Any suggestions on how to go about finding this? The apps and clubs just seem a little overwhelming at the moment. There are just so many options. Any help, feedback, pointing us in the right direction, or stories about your early experiences would truly be appreciated.

Thanks for reading, and happy swinging, my friends!