We went to a club last night, met a couple, which was our hope for the night, and flirted for about a half an hour. Everything seemed great, compliments all around, all the lights seemed to be green. My wife asks if they would like to play with us and if there were any limits we should know about. They eagerly say yes and that they were "pretty much go with the flow." The four of us find a semi-private nook and we start making out with our respective partners and the clothes begin to come off. Fun, right? My wife offers him oral and he eagerly accepts. We both love the voyeuristic aspect of watching each other with others, so Im taking in the view for a a few minutes while my wife is playing with both of them and also giving me attention. My wife takes my hand and begins to pull me into the mix. The other wife chooses this exact moment to say to my wife "I don't ever play with other men." We didn't make a big deal of it, and shifted gears to parallel play, which of course was great. I know....shame on us, we should have explicitly asked. However, in all the time we have been in the LS, over ten years, this is the first time we have had something like this happen. We are fine with parallel, soft swap or full swap, it's all a great time, but stealth wife poaching? Nope. The moral of the story is that no matter how well the talk and flirting are going, we will be stating exactly what we mean when we ask a couple to play and clearly asking explicitly what the other couple has in mind as well. We just wish people would be more up front.