first time meetup

Hi everyone, my wife and I are meeting another couple we have been chatting to on Red Hot Pie. Understandably, I (m) am a bit nervous and anxious as this is the first time we have done this.

We have played before on a few occasions with some friends, which is always drunk and impulsive, and have been to a swingers club in Sydney once and we think we comfortable with swinging, though this is the first time we have actively networked with strangers...

We will be meeting at a local pub, so I am seeking advice on getting over the social jitters and what kind of red flags to watch for.

From my perspective, he is super keen, and we don't hear from his wife much in chat, though she is present, admittedly I am the same as his wife, with my wife being super keen and chatty.

I am not concerned about insecurities in our relationship at all, and we have long discussed doing this.

Thank you!