So… at the age of 42 I finally feel like I’ve found where I belong, I have a very high sex drive and know I can never get into being married again or even in an exclusive relationship. I love variety and frankly I just love d*ck.

I consider myself a cis-female, solo poly I am pretty sure I’m hetero/straight. I have 3 guys I casually see, one is single like me, 2 are married but in ENM relationships and both spouses play separately. I’ve met the wives but that’s it. Beyond occasionally making out with a woman I’m not really into women sexually. If I was in a sexual situation with a couple I’d be more into the man and maybe just make out with the wife more so to turn the guy on than for anything else.

Ergo, I am now involved in the local Swingers community, I went to the local club and ended up hanging out with a couple single guys who normally fulfill the Bull role in the LS. My issue is I’m not sure where I belong. I don’t consider myself a unicorn and if I wanted to get together with a couple I’d be more interested in the man or even just see the man solo. I’m thinking if re-writing my profile on said LS site to better explain the above. So? Is there really room in the LS for a single straight female who doesn’t fulfill a unicorn role?

Lastly if I get a approached by a man whose married and usually him and his wife swing together is it good etiquette to ask to meet both partners instead of just the husband. I dont want to cause any issues.

Any advice is appreciated!