I (31F) and my husband (39M) have decided to join the lifestyle.

We’ve been married for almost 10 years- we’re very secure in our marriage and trust each other 110%. This has been a fantasy of mine way before we even met 11 years ago. I just always thought I’d be too jealous to engage in the lifestyle.

After years of building our foundation for our marriage and we’re done building our family, we’re in the best place we’ve been in. We have a great sex life and just mainly looking to enhance it even more.

I brought it up to him after we had a talk of sexual fantasies I told him how I’m 90% sure I’m bi-sexual and wanted to explore that along with having fun with other couples and to my surprise, he’s all for it.

We talked about rules and boundaries and went over expectations and as long as we continuously communicate, check in with each other and are near each other, we’re good. His big thing is just ensuring the other guy is respectful and kind to me.

We’re excited to go to our first club, we’ll be heading down to Nashville at the end of April to check out the red room, but we’re also hoping to find a few couples or parties near Minneapolis MN to get our ‘feet wet’ before Nashville. Any tips or advice are always welcome!