I have advised others, but here I am seeking input for a similar issue.

We have met some new *amazing* play partners. Our personalities jive and conversation flows easily. BUT they are relatively new to the lifestyle, but not ENM (we thought) and conversation flowed incredibly easily. We have common interests and similar life trajectory......

-the first time we got together (hotel, same room), he had issues getting/staying hard. The conversation and overall chemistry was good. REALLY good.

- the second time (our house, separate room), he had issues getting hard.

- the third time (our house, separate room) he had issues again. It was better, but still just a few pumps and then he lost his erection.

NOW, I am in the age range where ED is common. The *problem* is that my husband has trained himself to go for hours (yeah, I helped with his training, LOl!) We opted for separate rooms so that my play partner wouldn't feel too much pressure. The problem with that is that hubs and his partner are having a grand old time and we are just making conversation while listening to them live it up. I'm a relatively good conversationalist, but it isn't easy to talk about playing tennis while listening to a woman cum over and over.

ADD to that- during that third playtime, I got some info that is concerning. He said that (I'm simplifying) she basically told him that she would be fucking others and he could come along for the ride if he wanted. I would certainly call this a big, burning red flag but it's confusing because throughout any evening together, he expresses interest, initiates physical touch (kissing, rubbing, full on erection, etc.)

An additional complication: the wife(privately) told my hubby that he is the best f*ck she's ever had (I've no doubt!)

Furthermore, on the last outing, hubs mentioned to her the husband's erectile issues and she had NO idea, so their communication is lacking. They are new, so I don't mind giving them advice, but we need to do so in a constructive way.

So, hubs and I recognize that a conversation needs to happen. Our plan is to just say that we enjoy their company more than any other couple we've ever met (this is 100% true) but we need to troubleshoot the erection thing. I 100% understand that this is going to add to the pressure he is already feeling, so I don't know how to best approach it.

The fact that I'm asking shows that I really do enjoy their company and want to make it work, but I'm trying to figure out how to be direct without being an a-hole.

TLDR: How do we have a conversation regarding ED with a couple that we really enjoy OUT of the bedroom.