Basically name-calling and pejorative language has been a problem lately with multiple people.

It's ok to have an unpopular opinion and reddit is designed to dog pile you for it, which makes honest debate hard. They even removed the ability to see upvotes vrs downvotes, because you can't have anything but black and white.

But lets be above that in how we interact here. I've been too lenient on such language out of my lack of desire to censor people and its often a two way affair. Two people calling each other names and saying mean things to each other is a timeless tradition in humanity after all. But, how you say it matters too.

I will use a most recent example.

Alot of couples are stopping becausr it is becoming perverted and gross

Let me rephrase that.

A lot of couples are stopping swinging because they do not find such activities appealing.

Its just one way to say the same thing, only without telling the other person how disgusting they are for doing so. There are sex acts that can happen in swinging that I personally find nasty, but I realize its a "me" thing as many people find what I do nasty too. As long as no one is being harmed physically or coerced its all fair game.

And yes I know I'm pissing in the wind, and I'm sure somewhere in my post history, I did the same, but lets pretend to be better. We talk in swinging how important communication is, so lets start here.

Feel free to disagree, hell feel free to criticize swinging as a whole, just do it in a way that doesn't demonize, dehumanize, ridicule, cast aspersions, etc etc in the process.