So my partner (F37) and I (M37) are both HSV2 and have always defaulted to being upfront about our status when there’s potential for play. Our dating apps always state it clearly in the profile in the hopes of weeding out anyone who is a hard “no” without wasting anyone’s time.

However, we worry about how it would play out in a LS event situation where there is possibility for spontaneous play with brand new friends or even strangers. We know several people who are HSV and don’t disclose upfront if they expect it to be a one time thing. They figure as long as they are on suppression meds and not having an active outbreak and always use a condom, the risk is sufficiently mitigated.

Is this the norm in the LS? We know and understand that herpes is not a serious medical threat and is more just a nuisance so we can see how people can rationalize taking the risk. And I suppose there’s always some level of risk involved with any kind of sexual activity. Also considering how statistically about 1/3 of the population has herpes (whether they know it or not), I feel like there’s got to be a significant portion of the LS population who don’t actively disclose upfront. Or perhaps this is just our anecdotal experience in our city.

Just looking for thoughts and opinions from the experienced community and whether or not we should continue to err on the side of transparency or if it’s really not necessary. Thanks in advance, y’all!