My girlfriend and I are new to the lifestyle. Late 30s/early 40s and have been using the typical sites to look for partners- Tinder, SLS, AFF and Feeld.

We have had the most luck on Tinder for her (we are stag/vixen) but most haven't moved past the first meet and greet because the vibe just wasn't there. Either physically or personality wise. She is looking for a few FWB rather than just a one time hookup so both are important.

SLS and AFF seemed to be full of creeps and we havent met anyone from there. Feeld has been good better no one close so after being able to make plans to travel things seem to fizzle before we get there.

Is this all typical? Is it always this difficult to find regular play partners? We live in an area with about 200k people but the quality seems to be very low. Are there other couples out there that always have to travel for what they want?

We are both attractive and educated so we don't feel like that's the issue. We are looking for solo playmates, a third for MFM, a couple for her solo and then couple friends in the Lifestyle so we are open to almost anything.