My wife’s best friend shared that her new man is a swinger so she agreed to participate with one of his couple friends. Apparently it was such a good experience they’ve been scheduling several play dates and the two couldn’t be any happier. The enthusiasm and just overall mood is lovely from her friend and we are super happy for her.

Her experience got my wife and I talking just how we felt about trying the lifestyle. Some background on us: we are super happy together both vanilla and in the bedroom. We both find mutual masturbation super hot because we’re “watching” one another. We communicate really well (she’s a therapist so communication is a central component to our relationship). One thing we both agreed on is we have some insecurities about our bodies, bedroom skills, and the fear of seeing our partner enjoying themselves with someone else. But we both agree it could be fun to add some spice because of our mutual masturbation kink and this could be an added level. My question for your veterans is how do you deal with insecurities, especially when you first began? We both are in agreement that we do not want to jeopardize our already happy, healthy marriage. So how did you take that next step? Since the idea has already been introduced…