We met a great new couple; arranged a play date and the nerves got the better of the other spouse and he couldn’t perform.

He was apologetic, we didn’t make a big issue of it as it happens and he still tried to pleasure my wife orally and with fingers as did his wife.

After about an hour of soft play group fun, he said to his wife it’s ok if you want to have sex with him. As it was our first time with them and I wanted to show some respect for situation , I said I’m good with how things were. His wife had already had a bunch of orgasms etc with fingers and oral from the three of us.

I was worried he was saying that as he couldn’t perform it was obviously bothering him and I didn’t want to make his ED even more of an issue.

Now in hindsight; I’m thinking I may have been I rude for not having sex with her as I only had sex with my wife? Thoughts ?