Hello , looking for some advice, sorry if long, feels really complicated Me and my husband have been together forever - only ever had sex with eachother. We've talked for ages about swinging and decided we would ask some good friends (relatively new friends) who were also in the same situation as us, if they wanted to hook up and experiment with eachother. They agreed, and we arranged a night. We did different room swops, in the same house. It was great fun, we all enjoyed ourselves and decided we would like to do it again. Which we did and this is when it all started to change a bit . Things were eluded to , to me in the bedroom whilst having sex.. that he (the other guy) was having feelings for me. I wasn't really sure what to make of this.. and tbh didn't really think much of it Until we all hooked up a couple more times (again separate rooms) and he said "I love you" During this whole thing.. me and husband would tell each other EVERYTHING, every little bit, completely honest - why not we have nothing to hide from each other. We discussed wether this was a normal part of sharing such an intimate moment with another person, and maybe it's something we both liked in fact to feel that from another person. He said he had loving feelings for our female friend too but again we both said maybe this is completely normal, but we both know we are eachothers number 1s To cut a very long story a bit shorter, turns out that the other couple hadn't been quite as honest with eachother as we were led to believe, and we had a massive falling out because I told her that he told me he loved me .. which she said ",he told me he hadn't said that to you" then proceeded to ask my husband if he had heard this before.. which he said yes. Then she spoke to her man on the phone, she then changed her story to 'oh no he did tell me but he said he didn't mean it in that way".. still a shitty thing imo.. We have since found out he was unfaithful to her when they first got together which ended up with him being kicked out her family home, and now it makes sense to me as to why this came as a big shock to her. But I have been made out to be the bad guy in this situation.. because I told her the truth , and it hurts every day, this has been over a year now and it still hurts.. mainly because we still see them they are in a friendship group you see. After all this shit me and hubby have started swinging again - signed up online - doing it "properly" with couples that understand and want to do that, but even this.. when the guy found out he said "are we still going to be friends with them when we start sleeping with other people) and he was "a bit jealous that we were" in a private text to me (again I don't know how much of this my best friend knows..) he tells me one thing then I get a difference story from her... Lessons we have learnt, never swop with friends We wish we had never ever done this with them. It's ruined a good friendship but above all I'm angry at him for making this issue. I feel bad for my friend if she is putting up with him, I would be telling her to get rid but then I'd be the bad guy again. Very deep down I think she knows exactly what's happened.. and that he is a liar But i miss her as a friend and miss them as friends I just feel like it's one big fucked up mess that I can't figure out , I almost feel like I'm going through a break up I don't know what to do Do we walk away?