My wife and I have been in the LS for about a year. (Dabbled a little before that tho) We are fully engaged and try to have ppl over as often as possible. The problem I'm running into is, whenever we reach out to women or couples, the women are usually down to meet up until they see my wife. (She is the love of my life and my best friend!!! And i am very attracked to her.) I always thought that it was weird until I started noticing that my wife was doing the same thing!

We all know men are less picky, and bc I am very confident in my skills and attributes, I do not care who she chooses to have over for mfm or mfmf. But most of the time when we find a couple who is actually wanting to hang out either the other woman will see my wife and call it off (ghost us really) or my wife will see the other woman or man and call it off, without consideration to what my opinion is.

Every guy she has had over for mfm is very fit and of coarse not small in the pants. Almost every woman I have been able to get over is very large. (Nothing wrong with that at all!) But this is 100% based on the one of the woman's preferences every time.

I'm thinking of asking my wife to allow me to do solos if she is going to keep blocking us bc she knows there are 5 hot dudes waiting to get with her. It's not the most important thing in my life but it just seems unfair when I am finding all of our dates and picking absolute studs for her and she is either blocking opportunities bc of her preferences or they are changing their mind bc the women are not attracted to her.

I did talk to her about her being too picky when it comes to the shared experience, and she has acknowledged that it is inhibiting me. but whenever I bring up solo she gets extremely uncomfortable.

I don't know if I'm just being petty or if any of yall have had this experience. If so what did you do?

Any ideas about what I should do? Places or sites for chubby chasers? Idk 🤷‍♂️