This is kinda just venting but maybe soliciting some advice too…I don’t understand why so many people put so much effort into trying to fool someone/no one on Reddit or other online forums. Even those that require verification, there are many that chat for hours, swap pictures, make plans to meet, and then never show up. I’ll give a quick example:

I joined a couples forum so that I could find willing couples for “parallel” or soft swap activities, and eventually a mfm experience (I ultimately want two mouths and four hands pleasuring me in a sensual way). My husband was skeptical but It’s tied to a swingers club that requires authentication (Drivers licenses) for all members, and they must be part of a couple. We even attended two of their party nights, had a great time, but everyone seemed to have prearranged activities with people they already knew. We put on quite a show ourselves, lots of people watching us for hours, but never trying to touch or join in. So we asked and the couples said they used the online forum to meet and set up dates. On the forum, we posted a request to meet other couples, for a romantic tryst either at the club or at a hotel, and received a flood of responses. I talked to several and even made the hubby participate with those that were most compatible (soft swap, guys with nice dicks)- and everything was great. We arranged to meet up- as an introduction, to just have a drink between couples, and check the temperature of the situation.

No show.

We tried saying we were going to be at a bar playing pool from 8pm to 11pm, swing by and say Hi- no show. We even tried to meet online via chat, no show. Three or four couples and all were no shows. We tried this on Reddit as well while we were on vacation- 0 of 8 couples or single men showed up for drinks/swimming/sex. You would think hanging out at a 5star resort in the hot tub with drinks and a sexy couple would be an easy sell.

Reading back through the communication it became clear that almost all were texts from men. And even some of those “men” weren’t those in the pictures. After I was thoroughly discouraged, my husband did some internet sleuthing and found that the same username posted different pictures of “himself” on different sites.

Anyways, some of the couples seemed really nice and paired well with our eclectic interests. Even the single guys I vetted (or thought) were really nice men- but were really figments of some basement dweller’s imagination.

The good thing is that this whole escapade has been a rollercoaster of laughter. I can only imagine some married guy carrying on a secret chat with me, setting up a date for him and his partner, to then “surprise” her that Friday’s date night will be with another couple for DP- I’m sure her “Hell No” response was legendary. Followed by a loss of internet privileges for life.

So my question is- why do these men spend so much time/effort catfishing, or dogfishing, or fishfucking, or whatever the cool kids call it, when either their partner is not really into romantic sexual acts with another couple, or willing for their man to give/receive affection to the female part of another couple?