hi all! i(23NB) and my partner(28M) are new to this, and looking to get some tips before we start looking! we have a list of boundaries and limits, we are sharing an a account, and we're starting with online only play. the problem? we're lgbt and we have no idea how to approach this when talking to potential new people.

we're looking to be genuine friends with benefits with the people we're talking to. emphasis on the FRIENDS and BENEFITS parts. we dont want a friend and we dont want just benefits.

we don't know if we should look for people together or separately, or what to do there, but someone has already approached just me and im heavily interested, and my partner has no problem with it. the problem is my partner want someone we can both play with as well as someone just he can play with. is this too unrealistic? it seems logical to us, as all parties win and its fair and balanced.

where can we find people who would fit what we want and are lgbt like us? should we change our expectations and shift them to something different to fit our needs? should we look local just in case we want a physical meet one day? any and all advice is welcome! we're new, want to learn and be respectful and make this a positive experience for all parties involved. thank you for reading, have an amazing day!