Hi all! My (32M) husband and I (31F) are FINALLY having our first meetup with a couple (no pressure, just coffee and maybe more). But I'll be honest I'm still having some insecurities about one specific scenario. My husband and I are both bi and met a bi couple who are a little bit older than us but we're all pretty much on the same page interest wise, GREAT!

I guess my biggest hold up with hard swapping is my husband enjoying another woman's vagina more than mine. For context, I was his first... Everything. I feel so honoured and lucky to share that special moment with him. Buuuuut. I however was a bit of wild child before settling down, but my husband has always encouraged my adventurous spirit and I want to give him the same space to play with others. I know it's 💯 my own insecurity and he's been a rock star at addressing my concerns and being as slow and methodical as possible.

I guess I'm asking what's with my hold up? Why can't I seem to get past this? I have literally ZERO qualms if he goes all out with a guy but I genuinely don't get why I'm skittish about sharing him? Mentally I know it's just sex, so maybe fear of the unknown? Am I cray cray?!

TL;DR-- How do I get over the insecurity of my husband possibly liking another woman's pussy more than mine?