This is the newbie forum and a throwaway account so I’m asking for patience with my questions/ramblings LOL. Married couple here and we have been lurking Reddit swingers subs for a while and reading the advice on what we should do for our first time. Everything I have read says go to a club first, observe, have sex with your partner only unless you are both ready to jump in. make sure you are both comfortable and have rules in place.

We are going to Vegas sometime around March for a vacation and honestly we need some advice/help on where to go and other particulars.

I’m reading that the majority of some clubs are people in their 20-30’s and others are for older and some mixed. So I’m not sure where to go. We don’t want to go into a place and get the “gross” old people, get out stares. We are both in our early 50’s, body wise, we are a little overweight but working on it daily. Im a relatively good looking guy for my age, I have a belly but otherwise ok and I am not that body conscious. Unfortunately I only have a 6 1/2”L x 5”G penis so I’m definitely no porn star and I honestly worry I’ll feel inadequate. Im a grower not a shower.

Wife is attractive with gorgeous DD’s and a phat ass but is body conscious after having kids, no tummy tuck and is concerned about having to be nude the entire time. I think she is sexy as hell but women are their own worst enemies.

I’m sure each club has its own rules on clothing and appearance while there but I’m at least looking for some tips on everything already mentioned, where to go, and to help the wife feel comfortable. she is looking for a place that is not trashy, people are friendly and we won’t get too much pressure our first time.

She is considering wearing a low cut, sheer white Tshirt and no bra but with panties. Would that be appropriate or should she wear lingerie?

As for watching others, do we just stare, it seems strange but maybe that’s the turn on? Also, do we change at the club and what do i wear inside, nothing, boxers, or ? Can she bring her vibrator, lube, or any other things you would suggest? Any other tips for Vegas would be appreciated.