My husband and I have been going to a clothing optional resort for couples only. It is outside of the US… even though we are much older, we are both interested in exploring the lifestyle. Though we have been to this place 4 times , and met some wonderful people, we are finding it awkward and we are unsure how to actually broach the subject of sharing with couples. At this point we have only had one experience during the day with a guy and my husband in the jacuzzi where my husband and this guy sucked my nipples and my husband and the other guy fingered me…it was amazing and I came multiple times. I also kissed and stroked the other guy. My husband kind of set this up by just chatting with him. Total luck that this turned into something. His wife wasn’t disposed to doing anything due to a health issue.

We’re not sure exactly what we want to try or how to approach others with our desires. Obviously I had a great time having my nipples sucked and being fingered. Actual intercourse isn’t on the table, but touching, feeling, kissing, and watching and being watched are. Are our limits a turn off for other couples even though we haven’t even actually broached the subject with any? We don’t even know how to start the conversation.

yet we want to approach other couples…we love the sexy vibe at the resort and find it easy to meet and talk to people but would appreciate any experiences you can share…how blunt are you in asking about their lifestyle experiences? …

We have listened to podcasts, read some books like the Swingers Helper, and had a discussion about the lifestyle and its many forms, but none of the things we read or heard give us the way to open the subject with others. I’m not interested in going to a club, and besides there are none in our area. I only want to do this at this resort and not near home.

We are truly interested and appreciate any useful advice.