My wife (39F) and I (41M) have had three different threesome partners (20m 26f and 24m) none of which went as planned but mind blowing amazing for her. Which was fine-we always picked up and moved on to the next. Our last experience involved her asking to play solo with the 24yo guy. Everything that had gone wrong in the past essentially stemmed from me having to stand on the sidelines. I now understand that was a mistake for various reasons. It prevented her from ever experiencing a proper spit roast, DP, or DVP, and it also kept me from having the fun with her dirctly involved that we had initially agreed upon.

However, she was new to all of this, and I wanted to make sure that, regardless of time limitations or another person's performance issues, she had the most amazing time possible. That's exactly what she did. She had an incredible time in those moments, even though I had to make adjustments that left me feeling unfulfilled in the experiences.

When she asked for a solo experience, was not okay with it. For me, it felt like it undermined the purpose of sharing these experiences together. While it might have seemed like jealousy on the surface, it had nothing to do with the guy or me feeling inferior. What bothered me was her desire to do something private, as it conflicted with the connection and shared intimacy we'd been building through these experiences.

Still, I allowed it. Even though she could see how much it hurt me, she tried to reassure me that once she got this experience out of her system, she'd be able to redirect her passion and connection back toward me in the way she hadn't been able to before. She said that everything between us would be amazing afterward.

Instead, the next day, she sent me a breakup text. It made absolutely no sense to me. My first observation Was that she was still in the fog of NRE (New Relationship Energy) with the guy It took about two days for that fog to clear. I then pointed out the parts of her breakup letter that made no sense, and she eventually acknowledged that she had been overwhelmed and confused We agreed to get back together.

Now, my issue lies in the fact that she no longer wants anything to do with any MFM or FMF experiences. I'm concerned that, deep down, she won't be able to find the same satisfaction and excitement without those dynamics. The experiences she had were absolutely incredible for her, but when she looks back now, she feels guilt over things not going the way they should have. She focuses on seeing me upset and regrets not ensuring that I had the experiences we had agreed upon, even though I went out of my way to make adjustments so she could enjoy hers fully.

I want to salvage things so she isn't denying herself or me these experiences. I fear left as is she will grow a longing she will begin to resent me for.