So we have been discussing how to get into the lifestyle for a while now and have come to the realization we need to take it slow in order to know what we are and are not comfortable with. The idea of a few cocktails and some fun adult games that lead to having sex in the same room as another couple is very intriguing to us. We are not sure a swap to start with is the right move for us but it seems like most people our age (early 40’s) are already established in the lifestyle and are interested in what we are looking for. It’s been hard for us to find people at the same point as we are…

We are both attractive, clean and fun people, finding interested couples has not been the issue it’s been the full swap right off the bat that has turned us off. We have thought about going to a club but NYC isn’t the best to find decent clubs and we thought that may be a bit much for us to start with. Also not sure what the expectations in a club are…

Would love advice from those who were late entries into the lifestyle and ones who took it slow.

Thanks!