TLDR; some days the idea of a full swap sounds sexy. Other days I think I’d be pretty sad about it.

Been dating my lovely girlfriend for over 2 years now. I had never met someone who was open about communicating the idea of sharing women together. It seemed too good to be true so every couple weeks I’d bring it up and pick her mind/ask questions/pose scenarios about what she would and wouldn’t be okay with. After maybe a year of this and her encouraging me to feel free to talk to other girls, I finally let myself explore a bit.

A couple dates (and one night stands) later I realized that I really just wasn’t that interested in seeing other women without my partner.

So this sort of leads to swinging. Obviously I’d love for us to initially/only experiment with unicorns but for obvious reasons it’s not the easiest situation to find oneself in. So I suppose the next logical step would be to swing. However I find that some days, the idea of a full swap is really sexy and fun. But other days it kind of makes my heart/stomach sink. Any advice? I don’t want to do something that I might regret so we’ve erred on the side of caution (also haven’t had any opportunities for it).

I think that I would be much more willing to partake if it’s a couple I’ve known for a decent amount of time but we don’t have any friends in the lifestyle. The idea of swapping with random people who I’ve only known for a limited time makes me a bit uncomfortable however.