Hi guys,

39M & 42F, both bi. Have been talking/fantasising about bringing in another for some fun and I thought we'd worked out and discussed most of the issues that might crop up. Anxiety, jealousy etc.

We are limiting to MMF as F doesn't think she could handle the jealousy of another female and also, I M can't be the 'giver' of penetration to another for pretty much the same reason.

We have had a fun encounter in a German club last year which wasn't planned and from there have talked about more adventures and arranging hotel meets.

This almost happened 6 months ago but very last minute cold feet from F stopped it. So we talked some more. We got to a point where we want to go ahead and arrange a meet in Germany so all the flights, hotels and clubs have been booked along with new outfits.

Now there seems to be more cold feet and anxieties about what might happen. I'm obviously keen to talk about her fears and try to work through them but it seems to be months in between where we could talk and don't until the last minute.

I don't want to force the issue but I feel a little bit led on by the exciting promise of the night and it might never happen.