Hey all, I don't know if this is the wrong place to ask something like this but my wife and I would like some help. We think this is a weird situation, but maybe it's more common than we think?

My wife and I are really, really into swinging. We love the idea, we role-play, use toys, etc. but due to our life circumstances there is no way to actually participate in the lifestyle. I don't want to give too much away in order to stay anonymous, and I know the swinging community takes privacy very seriously, but it's not an exaggeration to say that our lives would be completely blown up if we were ever found to be swingers. But we love it, so much, and want to participate any way we can.

If anyone has any ideas on how to bring this aspect into our sex lives within the limitations we're in, we'd love to hear them. Hopefully one day things will be different and we'll be able to live the way we want, but right now we're trying to do the best with what we have. Private messages are welcome as well, if you'd prefer. Thank you.