Over 55 couple here but we are totally new to the lifestyle. We decided to try after visiting a lifestyle resort. We didn’t do anything with other couples there. Our first meet and greet last week was fine. No boundaries crossed; just talking and getting to know each other. Nothing came of that.

Last night was our second meet and greet, also an older couple. The guy was obviously into my wife who is quite attractive. He basically ignored me and his wife and concentrated on my wife. Okay, I expected that. His wife and I had a casual conversation. However, he was constantly asking leading questions of my wife about whether she was bi, what she liked to do, whispering in her ear, and, as I found out later, had his hand on her thigh a couple times. Much to my dismay, she didn’t tell him to move his hand. I didn’t know what was happening at the time. Perhaps she was being too nice and friendly.

I thought it was clear that meet and greet was just that and nothing else. My wife told me about the thigh thing later when she saw I wasn’t happy. I’m still bummed over it, and I feel she should have said or done something at the time. To me, he was making an obvious pass and I thought that was off the table. Meet and greet is meeting and talking. No more. This was yesterday and I’m still struggling with it. It’s probably my own fault but I’m having a difficult time with it.

Oh, we’re not doing this anymore but I’m still having a hard time with it.