Hey all!

So my partner (M48) and I (F46) have started slowly exploring swinging. My partner has had more experience than me in this area and has been involved in ENM in some of his past relationships. He is also bi and had a regular male lover before he and I started dating.

Last Fall we had our first MMF threesome with his old lover and it went swimmingly. We both loved the experience and felt strengthened by it as a couple. Recently, I gave my partner full permission to go play with his lover without my presence, because it really turns me on to imagine that and because I happen to be out of playing commission for a while.

My partner reciprocated and told me he would be happy for me to start exploring my own bi side, as I have often mentioned my fantasies about that but haven’t been with a woman in…20 years and even then it was in a group sex context where I had little time to explore and see what I like.

Also, how the heck do I approach a woman? I mean, I KNOW how to flirt with men and the sort of things men generally look for but with a woman, I feel like an awkward 14 year old again. I want to make sure I am clear about my objective, which is purely sexual, to set expectations.

Should I post an ad on a Swinger website? Dating website? Club setting? I’m not sure!

Signed: the late blooming awkward bisexual 😅