We recently had a soft swap situation with a couple where it was their first time. After playing some games and everyone getting all warmed up, we found ourselves on the bed. Me and the wife were engaged in each other and enjoying the moment. He was receiving oral and eventually came. He got up and went to clean himself up. While this is going on, me and the wife are still pleasuring each other.

Throughout all of this, I noticed that he is standing in the shadows watching and over time there is a progression of him putting his clothes on. My wife now isn’t no longer in the room. I think she’s taking a break, but she later confirmed that she didn’t feel comfortable coming in the room and being involved because he made a comment that suggested that he wasn’t into it. During the interaction with his wife, there was a lot of moaning, oh fucks, oh shits, etc.

Eventually, he came back to bed, but is fully dressed. My wife and I start fucking in hopes that it would entice them to, but nothing. We leave. The next day, we received a message from him apologizing and sharing that his emotions got the best of him and he checked out. Sent a message back to him extending grace and understanding.

Since then, it’s been crickets from him. There was no conversation between the four of us for a week. Finally, his wife reached out and there is some flirty comments made from us. We mentioned horny levels were increased since that time and it was her fault and the wife responds that we are cute together. Some other comments made, but nothing from him and he’s read it all.

So, my question… how should we proceed? Like do I reach out to check on his feelings? Is that my place? Do we essentially say the ball is in your court and only respond when they reach out? How should we handle this?