My husband and I starting seriously pursuing the LS about three months ago. We live in southeast Idaho and fully realize the population is small and the LS community is discreet - so are we. We have tried AFF, 3F, SDC, Feeld, and Reddit - Reddit being the most productive. Of course there are a lot of single men but we have also encountered multiple men who have wives who are "unavailable" for various stated reasons. We are OK with playing with single men but of course would prefer a couple. We have found a few men who seem really into the chat, intelligent, exchanged photos, but - and here is my vent - we CANNOT get anyone to meet up in person. We are not trying to meet up for instant sex but we are very eager to chat, then meet for conversation, and, if everyone feels good about it, have some fun!

I cannot understand the hesitancy to meet up especially as we are very willing (and require for ourselves) discretion and are happy to travel to different cities to ensure that discretion.

What are we doing wrong? Especially after chatting and sending pics and continuing with the genuinely fun, intellectual, and sexy chat, what is the missing key to getting people to meet in person?

Finally, if YOU are in proximity to southeastern Idaho and are SERIOUS about meeting in person without expectations but have a genuine interest in the LS as a COUPLE, we would love to meet! Don't send me dick pics, we aren't interested in starting in that manner. We aren't gym rats, we are very normal 43M43F, successful professionals, stable marriage of 17 years, looking for interesting people to match our energy and join our reasonable hope for sexual fun.