Me (39) and my wife (36) have been married for 12 years now and are/were pretty happy with our sex life so far (though it has become less, we were passionate and had a lot of fun when we did it)

Recently we started to confess more and more desires. We have explored a thing or two in the past, but I would say it was more ... mild. About 3 month ago she confessed she would like to get spit roasted by me and another guy sometime. I confessed I would love to suck a dick at some point.

We have booked tickets for a large party in a club about an hour away from our home for this Saturday and we (mostly me) get more and more anxious. What will it be like? Will we just watch? Will others approach us? Will they like us? Will I be able to perform? (I had issues with getting an erection when I was too nervous in the past) Will we have any sexual encounters? Will it change anything between us?

We have prepared ourselves: We have new, sexy outfits that will look good on us, we got ourselves groomed, we have a safe word in case we don't like anything that is happening for whatever reason.

I am both really looking forward to the experience and am really nervous about it. I think my wife is less nervous and more looking forward to it.

Any advice for a newbie to the lifestyle? Any reassuring words of wisdom? If there is interest, I will post an update afterwards on how it went