After 20 years of monogamy and fantasizing about it for years, including a year casually swiping on Feeld without much luck, we (39FM) finally found a woman we felt comfortable trying a threesome with. Our “unicorn” is bi, in a committed ENM relationship, and just looking for play.

She matched with him, but we immediately got on a 3 way chat and she was clearly more interested in me (F), which helped assuage any concerns of jealousy. She was as absolutely patient and understanding as anyone could ask. I’ve made out with some women in college, but I’m straight, and I didn’t want to commit to a hard swap at first, so I wasn’t sure where our venn diagrams would intersect, where everyone was comfortable and enjoying themselves.

We met at a bar for a couple of hours in the afternoon and just talked frankly: What we’ve done, what we’re comfortable with, what we’re looking for, our fears, and our hesitations. She was perfect: So understanding, patient, and intuitive. She had plans and left, but after a few hours, she bailed to come over and hang with us. After a couple drinks, with me sitting between her and my husband, I asked her if she wanted to kiss, and she said yes.

We made out, then I told her to make out with him. I was surprised I didn’t feel jealous at all watching him kiss a woman, but instead felt excitement. Then they both stripped me, each of them sucking on my nipples, we went to bed, and the fun continued. It was a lot of kissing, hands, and romping, but I suppose it was relatively tame compared to a full swap. My husband and I went down on each other and fingered her, all while making out with everyone.

It was a little awkward after we finished, but she kindly went home soon after, declining our offer for dinner so we could debrief. The chat continued and we talked about what was hot, and what we’d like to do differently next time.

The second time started similarly, but she didn’t wait long before going for my pants, fingering me and licking my juices between kissing. We tried a lot of the things we said we wanted to do and went longer this time. Hubby fucked me while I scissored, finger banged, and made out with her, we went down on him together, she went down on me while he fucked my mouth. Everyone came. Everyone had a good time.

I’m not sure what next time holds, if there’s a next time, but the talking about it, flirting, and reminiscing has been most of the fun. I’ve been the most apprehensive, but she’s been really respectful of my boundaries, which has made it much more comfortable for me to push myself. Happy to answer questions for any other newbies.