As a older couple (55m 54f) wanting to jump into the lifestyle, I’m curious what experienced swingers our age think about newbies? Do they avoid them or do they actually like taking your swinger virginity ? I have to think the first time would be awkward for us so not the most rewarding experience for other pair, so many couples would just stay away. But are there couples that like to basically hold your hand and welcome you, helping you past that first experience?
We’re newbies too! From what we’ve learned from more experienced folks, newbies have more rules and a newbie male may have issues maintaining an erection. We have many boundaries as we want to safely navigate things and assess our comfort level and my partner has run into erection issues in a play environment. It comes with the territory.
People give us the benefit of the doubt because we put ourselves out there, we’re cute, and we want to experience new things. Soon we won’t newbies but I’ll admit it’s been fun to gradually check off boxes as we find ourselves in new swinging situations.
What is trimix? My partner is scared of the side effects with Viagra and Cialis so alternatives would be interesting to learn about.
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It’s a mental hurdle. He doesn’t have any problems alone with me. Before our first orgy I asked about it as a hypothetical and he sort of brushed me off but in the moment of play with others it was a struggle. I wasn’t surprised since we’ve read about it but we’re gonna see how things work out in the future. When we talked about it afterwards, it was mainly due to a woman we hadn’t met who happened to be invited to this orgy and her moans were distracting (in a bad way) to my partner. I completely tuned it out but he didn’t. We’ll see how future play goes!