I have been married for over a decade and recently we decided to explore the Lifestyle. We were not really sure where we fit so we decided to go to a club. We went to Trapeze in FL and absolutely loved it!!!! From the min my husband and I walked in the door we knew we made the right choice.

Here’s my question: we have fantasized and role played and talked a lot about the hotwife space. We listen to a lot of podcasts and really did our homework before. I think we expected for the men to be hung like porn stars. This expectation created a lot of anxiety for my husband who is probably a touch above average.

Our experience was #1- everyone was about the same size (I guess that’s what avg is). #2-We specifically looked for a larger man and did not see a single one #3-no one care about big/small dicks, big/small boobs or body types.

The reason that I bring this up was that we almost didn’t make this leap due to too much focus on size and the anxiety associated with that. If you are stuck on any of the body “stuff” ignore it. Trust me no one cares!!