So recently my wife and I have been discussing a lot about sex and have been having sex almost daily for over a week.

We felt kinky and went to a sex store and I told her we could pick out a new dildo for her. She only ever uses a vibrator so this was new. We both agreed on a rather thick one, not much more then myself but it was a bit thicker.

Fast forward and it was great. I’ve now expressed to her after watching her play with it and then me using it on her, that I wanted to watch her give a Bj to another man. I don’t know why I want this i just want to watch her do what I know feels amazing and looks hot. It really gets me going.

My question is. Since we’ve discussed sharing and boundaries etc. how does this work? Obviously we find someone, hit it off and have fun, but I have concerns.

1. For those of you that are pros now. What was it like the first time you watch your wife go down on another man, or as the wife what was it like when you did? I feel like I’ll have a little jealousy but I know that can also be good.

2. We need to be safe. Of course wrap it up, and she is on birth control. Should she only give oral while he’s wearing a condom? Putting so many restraints on the event I feel could make it not as fun. But at the same time we don’t want STDs.

We are just new to this as we’ve been married for almost 15 years, together for 20. Communication is key which is why we are here. We just want to have stress free fun but be safe at the same time.