Wife and I decided we wanted to try swinging after 20 years of marriage. We’ve had many discussions about our criteria and fantasies. One of her criteria is the man has to have a handsome “Ken” face before she’d get “wet.” I ain’t no Ken and she still gets wet.

So…that has proved to be challenging when finding partners. I would find some matches on the platform and with those who we actually connect with, we share face pictures with. All of that has gone to naught once she sees his face. I think the face is reasonable but she’s just utterly picky and has unrecognized bias, which she denies.

I’m starting to suspect she’s not into the idea anymore and using it as a cover for her true intentions. When I bring the subject up, she just brushes it off. We’re not getting any younger.

Is there anyone here with a similar experience? How was that resolved? TIA