I promised an update from my first post Are we too old? but I don’t see it visible. So here it is.

UPDATE:

I took my husband to the Collette Club New Orleans last Friday evening for his 60th birthday. This was the first time for both of us attending a lifestyle club. Although I did read a lot about the clubs, we made a couple of mistakes and did not get the full experience we were both hoping. However, we are planning another visit. Hopefully it will be better. Here are my thoughts.

1.   Mistake #1: We went on Friday night, which had single men. Apparently, I confused this club with another one that had single men on Sat. nights.  So, that is why I chose Friday. I thought Friday nights were couples only in New Orleans. Wrong. I wasn’t a fan of that. (Will explain later.)
   

2.   We followed the suggestions of others and arrived early. I believe this was mistake #2.  We were one of first people to arrive. By the time we left around 12:00 (I don’t remember the exact time), the club was still not in full swing (pardon the pun). Everyone was still chatting and not even dancing. So, I thought maybe things get started later. Not sure.
   

3.   The staff was super friendly and helpful. Gave us a tour and we were impressed with the cleanliness of the club. We sat at the bar and had a couple of drinks. At that time, we were the oldest couple there, but we did not feel out of place. To be honest and not to brag, but, I felt like I looked much better than some of the young women. So that gave me a lot of confidence. A little while later, another older couple arrived and sat at the bar. After some time, the couple came and talked to us. It was difficult to hear with the loud music. So they said they were headed upstairs. Hubby and I went to the restroom and then went upstairs. When we arrived in the library, there were a few couples already in the library and no place to sit and talk with this couple. So we headed to the next room, which was the theatre and started to play with each other. During this time, the woman of the older couple came up to me and asked to share phone numbers. I said sure. But then she kissed me and turned around and left. I assumed we would meet up with each other later, but we never did. Now I have no way to contact them. She did tell me that she was on Kasidie. So we joined yesterday and still can’t identify them. So bummed. I feel like we could have learned a lot from them since they have been in the lifestyle for a couple of years. Mistake #3.
   

4.   After playing around a bit, my husband decided to go to a room. We just had the shear curtain closed and to my surprise, I really didn’t mind others watching. I really liked it. At one point, two guys asked if they could join. My husband said no. We are newbies and do not wish to include others in our play at this point (possibly later, but still not sure). So they did not join. However, when my husband flipped me around, the two guys were standing at the end of the bed within the curtain jerking off. This totally freaked me out. Not the jerking off part, but the within the curtain. I guess my way of thinking was that if they took the initiative to come inside once my husband said no, then I didn’t know how far they would go. Everyone says that these spaces are safe spaces, but at that point I felt a little violated. Mistake # 4. When I freaked, I asked my husband to leave. And we did without telling anyone. I know we are supposed to alert the staff of this breach, but I was a little frazzled and not thinking clearly. I thought if the couple said no then you should not invade their space.
   

So, as you can see, this wasn’t the experience we were expecting. Not totally horrible, but just a live and learn type visit. We are still positive that we would like to try it again.

OH AND BY THE WAY,… I DIDN’T FEEL OLD OR OUT OF PLACE – so thanks for the words of encouragement.

Here are my thoughts on Collette New Orleans

· Staff was great!. · Atmosphere good · Music –Waayyyyyyy too loud both downstairs and in the library. DJ’s music was all remixes that never end and just continue with the same beat. No slow music to get in that loving feeling. Every once in a while you need slow dances to bring people together. · Theatre room needs the sound on low. There was no sound.