My gf (26) had an affair from Jan-jun of this year I'm also a woman and I am 25. She has then stopped all communication with the AP for months now.

However she has a co worker that constantly blows her phone up and it reminds me of the behavior from the affair. She has her phone around her constantly, and she talks to the co worker ALOT. I don't want to blow up about it because I don't want to look like a paranoid control freak who cant even handle my gf having co worker friends but I have obsserved the conversations and they are a bit weird, for example :

If they are talking and the co worker is talking about sex/relationships, my gf changes the convo when I come in the room to be work related and never offers her opinion about those things when I'm around. I can only imagine what is said when I am not around. Id love to know l.

Also, my gf and I already had an argument about this co worker because I found out she was at her house after hours. She claims they were getting work done, but if she already has a history of affair and cheating, I get very uncomfortable with things like that. I told her I didnt want her at the co workers house after hours, and she agreed to not do it again. However the girl still blows up her phone, I havent seen what the texts look like but I can try and ask.