So recently I found out that my ex had a flirtatious relationship at work with one of her managers at a restaurant she works at. This involved sexual dirty talking while on the shift, sexual compliments, photo sharing and plans to hangout. I found out, and told her not to text the other guy again and block him.

Well something told me to check her phone again and it didn’t take less than a full day for her to respond back to his texts on imessage thus continuing the contact of cheating on me. What’s worst is how she described getting caught by me to be hilarious, funny, and that she’ll reach out to this guy when we’re done. She made me sound like a doormat, a joke, an option… as if everything we had was a plaything for her to play with.

Feeling emasculated, embarrassed and surprised she could ever talk about me like this to another man considering everything I done for her. I posted her incriminating screenshots to her social media feeds (instagram & snapchat stories since I had access to the accounts). Additionally I also sent those screenshots to the guy she was cheating on me with, her GM at work and the owner of the restaurant she worked at since she was cheating with one of the kitchen managers. I also sent them to her mother as she was texting this guy the whole week I was helping her mother move to her new home a week prior to all of this. The guy responded immediately, and so did the owner but the GM and her mother didn’t say anything.

The guy she cheated on me with replied back that he’s sorry and that he didn’t know we were together (A complete lie, she told him she got caught cheating and he told her to keep in touch with him once we fell out). I also let him know I notified his bosses (I sent him screenshots) and he was baffled since he expressed wanting to keep things between them private. The owner was very kind with his response. He said that he cannot get legally involved with anything “outside” the restaurant (despite the texts happening during the shift on the clock). The state we live in is an at will employment state, meaning that the business can fire employees for any reason at will except illegal ones. I think they’re pretty decent employees at their job, and he would rather keep them than let them go over this. However he said that I’m in his prayers and he’s apologized for what happened. So despite all this they both still have their jobs.

She later called me back to apologize about the ordeal but the damage was already done and I broke the news to her about what I did and to screw her. It turned into a name calling match and I blocked her.

I really don’t know how to process this. I said some pretty nasty things to her and she didn’t let off trigger either. I wished her all the worse. A bit of anxiety rushed over me recently about having the strong urge to be the one who came out on top of all of this and became better off without her. Kind of weird to think but given how breakup stories usually go with there always being a clear winner and a loser, I want to prevail. I wanted to be the one that looked back at it all and laugh about how she was never able to recover from her mistake.

Update: I actually found out that the man she cheated on me with has a baby mama. He is a single father coparenting a som with another woman. I reached out to her and showed her the screenshots of the infidelity. She said that she knew about her texting him and the nature of her relationship. She doesn’t want him texting someone that doesn’t like the mother of their child. Turns out he cheated on her while her was working at the restaurant with another woman while caring for their young son at home.