I've been fighting with my girlfriend a lot lately. She never wants to talk. Is stressed out by everything. I just want to support her, but I can't help her if she doesn't know what's wrong. She makes me feel bad for wanting to spend time with her or telling her I love her. We haven't had physical or emotional intimacy in about a month.

Truth be told I don't know what happened. We are in a poly relationship. She had another relationship end recently. Part of our rules were that we just don't talk about our jealousy issues. I suspect she's just not telling me anything because she's worried ill make it about myself. I know its too late for that.

I told her today that I'd be there whenever she does want to talk. That it doesn't have to be today or tomorrow.

But every day fills me with more and more and more sadness and what feels like my relationship just falling apart. Its hard. We both need therapy. We both need communication and support. She at least has friends. I have nothing like that. If she stops talking to me about things I just don't even wants to think about it.

If i lose her... I would just want to end things instantly. I just wants this fucking sadness to go away. I want somebody to tell me its okay to tell my girlfriend I love her and that its okay to feel sad about the distance that has grown between us. I get that whatever happened wasn't because of me and that I'm making it about myself now. I'm a selfish piece of shit who just wants my girlfriend to be happy and that would make me happy.

Idk. If you made it this far thanks for reading. Its appreciated.