Well the goal is for it not to happen. But most sugar babies are far better at looking at sugar as a means to an end. They still get emotional sometimes too. I’ve had several pursue traditional relationships when I ended it. Or several ask if we should consider a real relationship. But in my experience, I get attached more often than the baby. I’m usually better than this of controlling it though. It rarely blossoms into “love.” This was the exception. Well, the second exception (it happened a few years ago.) It’s usually more an intense infatuation… a crush? But getting over a crush is as easy as getting on top of a new sugar baby.

This one was unique because we clicked so well. If we had met in high school, she would have been my high school girlfriend.

Hell, I would have married her after a couple years if we kept clicking like that. So yes, sugar gets real.

Indeed, I knew it would end. But in my 10 years as a daddy, she was the second that I fell for. The first, I was with for 4 years. I actually called the woman from the 4 year relationship and vented to as her soon as this happened. I suppose I thought with our connection we genuinely had years together.

Nevertheless, thank you. Truly. Obviously I cannot vent to my family as one normally would. In these situations, 30 seconds from of support on reddit makes all the difference. It really does.

Thanks, boss. I’m doing better. I have already picked my next baby. We’re sealing the deal Saturday. She is significantly hotter, but the heart wants what the heart wants. I still keep thinking of Ivy. But I’ll heal. And in a few months, I intend to text her to check in.

I wish my 1 year with daddy continue forever and never ends.

Ironically, my baby, Ivy, was saying the same thing literally last Saturday. I think that goes back to her confusion. Emotionally, I want to pretend like if she was confused then, how can I trust that she's any less confused now? Wouldn't it be great if I got a text from her while I was typing this that says, "I screwed up: I want you back."

But logically, I know she chose. And there is power in choice. I honestly think the reason she broke it off was because me texting her would continue to muddy the water. She chose, and she needs to sure up that choice: so she got rid of the distraction. And that's ok. That's what she needed to do.

I don't for a second believe that she broke off contact to protect her bf. We were good friends. She knew I was crazy about her. She knew how much she hurt me (I told her). She could have literally just told him, "Hey, I was seeing someone while we were broken up. I choose and love you, but we became friends, and I just hurt him. I owe it to him to occasionally text him to help him through me choosing you." I think that 90% of guys would say, "Oh of course" and the ones that wouldn't would never be with a girl this high caliber. But if she told me the truth, that may incentivize me to keep trying to contact her to win her back, which would again, muddy the waters.

By here's my epiphany: it doesn't matter. Regardless of the circumstances, regardless of if I could have "won" her had I played differently, she chose. Game over. And it sounds like you've made your choice too. There is power in consciously choosing.