I haven’t been too impressed by what I’ve found in this subreddit compared do what I’ve found on seeking arrangements, and sadly that site has really gone downhill lately, but I’ve seen some really bad habits here that really sell yourself short.

For content creators: My mom always said why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. So, I can’t speak for everyone but a sugar arrangement is more than buying pre made content. If we were after content we’d sub to your OF or just look through your post history and get your stuff for free. And yes, if you have posted tons of content for free, then you’ll have to offer something to entice us. Or why be a sugar baby when we can get your OF sub for 10 bucks a month?

Economics.

Then the next stage is a GFE. If you want to offer that then be prepared to act like a GF. Be prepared to stick to a time and a date or arranged dates online and be punctual. We are paying for it. Show up. Or if you can’t, let us know in advance. Please don’t act like a spoiled brat. Don’t act unappreciative. Don’t act disrespectful of our time.

If you want the money, the real money, and don’t want to put in the real work, well it likely won’t last long and your SD will get bored and move on or he will just get annoyed and end it anyway. Thems the breaks.

Oh and don’t act like an asshole and demand massive down payments just to add us on Snapchat after we’ve added you on your OF and your patreon or some other hoop to jump through. Then bully us if we don’t cave to your silly demands. SDs have to screen through a fair number and we aren’t paying you to apply.

SDs who have wealth have either inherited or earned it, and most earned it. We worked hard for it. So don’t expect to just coast and do nothing and get luxury goods for just half assing it and barely phoning it in.

SBs -also try to get some hobbies that aren’t drugs and the internet. Have some depth. Also try to get some decent photos of yourself taken without a potato cam. Try not to bury yourself behind so many filters.

Be yourself. But be interesting?

And as for SDs, it doesn’t do any good to enable bad behavior. If they want to invest in a business or education or the stock market then that’s one thing. But if they want to bury themselves in luxury goods they can’t afford just because they are T and A and are air heads well, you’re gonna find yourselves pretty bored pretty quickly so don’t fall into that trap. And if you didn’t get a prenup they will suck you dry. So don’t. Believe it or not some SBs aren’t leeches. Some genuinely want to just better their life and not burn through money like there’s no tomorrow. My advice is find them as they are the best SBs ever and they are the ones that cost the least. Value for money? Just saying.

If you’re into findom please seek help as it’ll destroy you. Fin doms are like drug dealers only they make far less money and have far less dignity. It feeds into terrible habits and is not good for anyone. Don’t pay someone 1000s to be treated like dirt. Don’t pay 1000s to get half assed blurred photos. It’s not worth it and you will regret it.

Finally, scammers. SBs, obviously don’t send your bank account login info to anyone and make sure the money clears. If they spend more than a few days before payment they probably aren’t interested. Just move on. Don’t bother. They may not exactly be a time waster, they could have been interested at the start but just faded away because that happens. Go easy. Move on. Block if you want. It happens all the time in dating. It’s life.

SDs. Reverse image search. Always do that. Flip the photo back and forth too. If you find it belongs to someone else’s Reddit or OF account, spend 10 bucks to ask that person if it’s really them if you want. If it’s a separate account it usually isn’t really them. Always be creative with how you get verification. Timestamps can be easily faked. Anyone can grab someone else’s pics and do some deep fakes and be hard to find. Then they have your money or bitcoin and they are gone. Do your due diligence. Don’t pay someone to have them verify. If a SB can’t spend 1 min to verify, move on as it’s a scammer. Be on the alert. If they send you a cashapp or PayPal with some random dudes name it’s either a scam or a pimp. So don’t. If it doesn’t sound or look right it isn’t. You have every right to be suspicious of anything on the internet and so do they, and if anyone asks you to blindly trust anyone on the internet, run.

Anyway just my two cents. Good luck out there.