hi everyone (:

i've been on the traditional sugaring sites for about two weeks now (seeking, sdm, sd) with no luck. lots of accounts with creepy vibes & people who just gave me a bad gut feeling. so i've got on bumble and hinge and oddly enough have seen a lotttt of guys on there that are also on seeking. (i've tried to be subtle in my profile so i don't get banned- mentioning that i love shopping and getting my nails done, value generosity, etc). i ended up matching with this one guy (48m), and he seems nice/respectful (thus far; i'm of course not making a concrete judgement this quickly) and is almost 30 years older than me.

i'm a college student, he knows this, and he (allegedly) works for a surgical robotics company. he suggested a $$$ (according to yelp) sushi restuarant in my city for a date next week. he's out of state but a 30min ish drive from where i stay.

the thing is, this man's profile says he wants marriage. his bio also mentions a "life partner." in that case, why are you looking at a college student lmao? i'm only a couple years older than his daughter.

i'm thinking about asking why exactly he's going out with someone my age (but being more subtle). i'm also wondering what other kinds of questions i should ask, whether before the date or on the date.

i'm a quarter through ho tactics and have been reading the forum, but advice would still be appreciated (: