Just finished a date with this new guy that I met through freestyling (at a basketball game that I purposely went to because I knew it's where the affluent men in my country was going to be atm lol). We were seated near each other and he took noticed of me while I was cheering on a team (God who knows but they're the winning team lol) and we started chit chatting during the game.

Disclaimer: Okay, so I really prepped myself out as the typical "girl next door" that's still within my style. I made sure I was dressed nicely for the occasion (it's a sporting event lol). Blending in yet would still stand out. This is how I always look when I freestyle.

By the end, he invited me to an after party with his friends, bought me drinks, and offered to take me back home. I refused and he just paid for my Grab (our Uber here) back home. He asked for my number before I left and invited me on a date the next day.

We met at the mall and he already planned everything out from our lunch to dinner and our activities in between. He took me to a cafe as for our initial meet & greet. He's in his early 30s, a computer geek and the vice president of a construction company in our country, and to my surprise, not really a sports fan lol. He just used the ticket that his company gave out for free and went out with his friends. He wasn't expecting anything other than watching a basketball game. He said he was glad that we met.

Then he took me to all the shops around the mall. While I was shopping for clothes, he wasn't idle on the side waiting for me to finish, he was engaging with me the entire time, taking note of my preferences and suggesting pieces that I might like (I love all black, that's it). He willingly carried all the shopping bags as well while we're happily chatting about our interests and random things happening in our country.

By the time I suggested to buy some lingeries, he was putting on a brave face but I knew he was shy to enter there. I asked if he wanted to wait but he said he wanted to go in with me. Of course, he paid for everything and made light hearted comments on my choices *wink wink

For dinner, he really let me have it. I jokingly said I could eat a whole steak and he agreed. We ordered the same thing and some wine to go with it. We genuinely had a nice conversation about our lives in general. Afterwards, he bought me a small cake and some flowers to take home. He asked if he could take me back to my place but I refused again then he offered to get me another Grab so I could get back home safely. He waited until the car arrived, helped me with the shopping bags, and I kissed him on the cheek before saying goodbye.

Overall, he spent more than $2500 today for my clothes, shoes, bags, accessories, and lingeries. Take note that this is a vanilla date with a vanilla guy. He asked to meet again next weekend but I told him that I already have plans (or do I? lol). It's nice that he enjoys spending time (and money) with me, that's what all that matters atm.

Now, for the question, do I label him anything yet? No. I will not call him an SD or SBF yet. Does he have a potential to be one? Maybe.

Why? Because I know men can literally spend their entire life savings on a random woman that's not even their wife/gf. Flexing their financial capabilities is somewhat an ego boost, mix that with having an arm candy that will make other men look at us (especially at him and wonder why how he got her). Not every guy, especially vanilla ones, can sustain the sugar lifestyle because they have options to just choose a girl that they can afford.

So gauging a man's potential is good but don't give out everything just yet. Be a great companion with plesant conversations on hand. Determine if he's wooing you for a relationship or a one night stand. If you immediately hookup, it's over, trust me. They'll just move on to the next one. Propose a challenge but don't be too hard to get. Remember that it's a vanilla guy you're dealing with, not an experienced SD that knows how SBs act.