So I’ve recently been having some mental health troubles (extreme stress and recently diagnosed with bipolar) and I’ve been seeking comfort in pet play.

I currently don’t have a partner that I can indulge in this with and it’s really been driving me crazy. The thing that I feel like is helping me has started to cause me stress as my mind feels desperate to have someone else control it.

Another problem I have is trusting someone enough to actually submit to them. After some bad experiences (sa and manipulation) I feel really anxious at the thought of giving a man that much control over me. I know it’s a process to gain trust of a dom, but it’s like I want it so bad I don’t trust myself.

Also, does anyone experience shame around submitting like you do during pet play? I want to feel protected and cared for and also humiliated like a pet would, but there’s a part of me that feels weird indulging in that so much.