Okay.... this is so embarrassing to post but I'm SURE I am not the only one, and if anyone will understand I think it would be the BDSM community.

So. I'm in a relationship with a wonderful man. We're both poly and he has a few other subs (who I am fairly close to). Our (the whole polycule's) main dynamic is pet play; not all of us are collared but I am, and so I refer to him as Master and Owner, on top of cute "vanilla" petnames.

Now, from the beginning, we've been very open about communication and boundaries and such. One of his favorite titles for himself is Daddy, even moreso now that he's starting to become a CG for some of the other subs who are littles.

I'm fine with this. I used to feel icky about the word but I've used it before for others, gotten used to it, and seen the appeal. I use it for him sometimes, especially when I'm sort of in littlespace myself.

Problem is... that's what I call my father. I guess my sibling and I just never grew out of that, we didn't really see a need to. I call him other things sometimes, but mostly in a joking fashion.

I don't dislike using the word for my Master. But this is very clearly going to be a long-term relationship. My main concern is just that I don't want to have a "Can you pass me the salt, Daddy?" situation. (It's an LDR so it'd probably be a while before he meets my parents, but I think I should resolve this sooner rather than later.)

Could I stop using the word for my dad somehow without making it awkward? Should I stop using it for my Dom? Is it possible to use it for both? Do people do that? I don't know... I'm not particularly uncomfortable with it, I just... it feels weird and like I shouldn't be doing it. Please tell me someone else has been in a similar predicament before.

Also: I know the answer is going to be to talk to my Dom (and maybe to my dad but no way in hell am I going to do that, lol). I will eventually, but there's a lot going on with him right now and I don't want to add to his worries. I know he'll feel bad about it if I come to him without at least some idea of a resolution. So I want to figure it out on my own as much as I can before bringing it up.