I’m new to IRL subbing.

My dom and I have definite chemistry but looking back I have made a lot of notes on what i want to improve. For example when he spanks me he starts out pretty hard or medium hard. I’m pretty disappointed by this tbh 😓. I told him that he spanks too hard and he improved a bit but I’m realizing I’m going to have to walk him through the steps of first warm up, then accelerate a bit, THEN once everywhere is red, you can start hitting hard.

Once he gagged and tied me up and then had to go find the various toys he needed. This gave me a mental note of in the future I need to be the one to make sure everything is ready, because once restraints are in place, the clock is ticking on my jaw and body.

I know this is selfish because I haven’t made him come, but I was hoping he’d make me come by now, or try :( Sometimes he will stimulate me for just a couple of minutes and ask if I think I can come. Just that question takes me out of the moment!!!! I even told him that if he wants me to come it will likely take at minimum 15 minutes to get there… but he hasn’t tried yet :(

He has ADHD and I think that’s why all our scenes feel so rushed to me but I’m just kind of let down, like it wasn’t what I expected. We still had some good moments I guess I just need to communicate this stuff and hope that it gets better?