I really struggle to know when I should safe word. How do I get better at this? I crave more intense scenes. When I get in them, I know that I’m having a tough time taking it but I am able to. Then after the scene ends, I sub drop so hard. And I know that it was too much. Based on how I feel physically and emotionally afterwards, I know it was too much. But during the scene, I don’t fully realize it’s too much. I think I want to be able to handle it because I want to be “good”. And just saying it… I know that’s messed up. Then my Dom feels bad because he can tell I’m not doing so great after. He tries to help and he would never push me beyond what I wanted. And I feel awful about that because it’s not his fault. I need to safe word when it’s too much. But I never seem to know when it is until it’s too late. I’m sorry for the ramble!! Any advice?