I've always known I was a sub, but wasn't able to properly explore it in past relationships. Often when I'd have vanilla sex, I would imagine other things happening or I would focus on being sexy and performing, so one could even say I've almost never been fully present and grounded during sex. Which is. Pretty oof to say out loud.

Now that I am single, I can finally explore being a sub, and I'm really happy about it so far. I am regularly playing with a lovely dom and we have lots of fun together.

However I am noticing that it is really hard for me to be fully present when we are playing, it's maybe a bit hard to explain the exact feeling. After we have played I think back to it like wow, that was so hot, but somehow in the moment I have a hard time experiencing it fully even though we spend lots of time warming up.

Has anyone experienced anything similar? Or does anyone have any tips on how to ground myself in the moment instead of going into performance mode like I am used to 😩 I really want to enjoy these moments!