Just ended a 5 month long dynamic a few days ago and I’m not coping well. I’m struggling to eat, barely sleeping, can’t focus on anything.

I have no interest in pursuing another dynamic, but I’m feeling so lost without him. We agreed to go no contact for now, and while that’s probably for the best, it hurts like hell.

What are everyone’s thoughts on finding a D to engage with on a temporary basis? Just to get my mind off of him and tickle the masochism itch until I’m in a better spot to cope on my own. Essentially, a distraction from how fucking sad I am. Of course I’ll be upfront and honest about where I’m at and what I’m looking for, if I end up going that route.

I’ve been here many times before. I know time heals all, and I know I’ll be okay. I just need something to help me get through these first few weeks that hurt the most.

Thoughts? Is this a terrible, wildly unhealthy idea or could it actually work?