I have been vetting someone for the better half of two months. I’m very well aware that it’s a process and takes a lot of time. we’ve been having some communication issues, and i’m not feeling very reassured in everything.

for context, i’m starting to feel comfortable with him and more vulnerable. I have had my guard up a bit (I feel like for obvious reasons) and was starting to let them down with him a bit. Now, i’m aware life happens and people are busy, i’m understanding of that. but one of his “rules” (soft rules i’m okay with. I have honestly had a lot of control in this situation that I am thankful for, which is why i’m hopeful for some advice) is constant contact, but I feel like he doesn’t text or call me nearly as much as I would like, let alone make time to try and see me. For one example, we had a 5 ish minute phone call yesterday, the phone call abruptly ended, and I didn’t hear from him until 12 hours later.

When he finally texted me he just said “hey ___ dropped my phone it went black didn’t turn it on until now” I told him I wasn’t happy but knew he didn’t have the time talking about it due to family obligations so we would talk later. he got a bit defensive when he asked how he can control it if his phone stops working. and I just let it go while I went and did my thing.

congrats if you’ve made it this far; here’s a cookie 🍪

I asked him at one point what he was doing he said “still at practice” I didn’t respond, he texted me when he got home and I said “well I have some time to talk if you do” …. nothing. he read that message and I texted him two more times and haven’t heard from him.

am I being too needy in my want for attention and affection? am I wrong for severely doubting his ability to give me the time and attention that I want?