Hello 👋 let start off by saying that I’m really new at this. I’ve know long time that I’m submissive but was in a relationship and he was not interested at all in this lifestyle. We separated so now it’s time to look for a dom I have read a lot, getting info just educating myself so I don’t make a mistake when choosing the right dom. I went on fetlife, did my profile was extremely honest made a post on a newbie group, as expected had a lot of messages. I replied to maybe 3 of them. One of the guys I message with went straight to “sexting” I’m entertaining it because I have nothing better to do with my time lol. The 2nd person we are just messaging friendly asking how our day has been and talking about how divorce impacted us, 3rd guy 😍 he has been nothing but sweet patient understanding he has not once talked about sex/fetishes ,kinks! he is always reassuring me that we have to build trust in order for anything to work out and just talks like he really knows. He tells me he will explain what it is to be a dom! Idk if he’s legit? Any advice as to what to ask him or just advice to me to know if he is the real deal or not. Again I’m extremely new at this! The only closeness I’ve had to bdsm, dom, sub, kinks, fetishes! Are from all the dark romance books I’ve read! lol thanks in advance. 😙